The pearl of happinessPerî BextewarîHappiness is a decision... And skill! How do we paint our sky with our colors?
Happiness is not a passing event or coincidence, it is the product of "decision and action". Similarly, negative thoughts are also a result of our repeated decisions and actions.
Failing to modify wrong decisions, over time, turns them into inherent 'habits' that shape our destiny.
These decisions do not come to us out of vacuum, but we learn and acquire them from our first environment: family, state, religion, tribe, and the society in which we grew up.
Mind is like a garden, Skill is like a sport:
Our minds can be seen as having two gardens: the garden of positives and constructions, and the garden of negatives and despair. We decide which ones to tell and care about, and which ones to neglect.
Just as acquiring any skill takes practice, mastering our thoughts is a skill like a sport; the more we train on making the right idea and decision, the better and more self-led we become.
You're the painter of your own sky:
You are your own artist, you are the painter who has the power to determine the color of the sky in his own world.
Even if the sky is actually blue and clear, the mind trapped in the circle of darkness may see it as a dark black piece.
The mind here is like a TV that shows two major channels: one that broadcasts poisons, superstitions and ignorance, and the other that broadcasts logic, science and evidence
True that we may not have the choice to program state or community broadcast content, but we do have the choice to "watch" any channel.
Sadly, most people choose to run away from truth, logic, material and scientific evidence and prefer to follow the channel that transmits poisons, superstitions, ignorance, poverty, violence and blasphemy.
Freeing oneself from the burden of the past:
It's not your fault to be born in a family where people are struggling, and you usually see the sky as a "blackboard". If that’s your family, it’s important to always carry your “own sunshine” in your pocket. Pay attention, a negative family can destroy your life if you don't make an emotional and intellectual decision to detach from them
A family that is described as intellectual constipation is like 'solid barren land' where nothing grows. And sometimes, we may see an outbreak of that rule; a rose plant emerges, grows and leaves the rule, and that plant has to be “you.”
These environments often ignore compassion, don't know understanding, don't promote the art of listening and obeying, only promote control and force, lying and hypocrisy, manipulation, deceit, denial and resistance. If you are brought up unconsciously in her shadow, you will become like her.
Negative people are mostly victims of illogical society or religion, no one taught them the way of logic and material evidence
Confronting rather than running away (no negative focus nor superficial positivity):
The solution isn't just to escape to "superficial positives"; this is a gruesome mistake. When you face a problem, you should look for 'solutions', not be a coward and run away.
Escaping takes many forms, including:
Running away to prayer without action: It's like saying "I will pray for myself and God will make me better." Wisdom says, "use your mind and start making a decision." Allah says: "Allah will never change what is a people until they change what is within their own selves." Change begins with you.
Escaping addiction: such as resorting to alcohol, drugs, excessive sex or eating, especially sweets. All this is "cheating", is the escape from reality and from self.
Bottom line:You're not just a victim of your circumstances, you're a "painter of yourself". Decision and action are your only tools of liberation.
Face the truth with logic and material evidence, seek solutions instead of running away, and only then, will you be able to paint the sky of your life with the color you really want.